Validating feelings counseling
Working as a therapist one often hears “I just want to feel validated”. How does validation not only impact our relationships, but our self-worth as well? Let’s start with a simple explanation of the meaning of validation. It’s not that you don’t share your own point of view.
Simply put, validation is when you’ve listened and acknowledged what the other person has to say.
The question is “where is he seeking validation from?
” To validate something is to “give official sanction, confirmation, or approval to it.” What makes you feel like you have value and worth?
We are demonstrating that we accept and respect their perception of things after they have shared themselves.
Perplexed by the fact is rarely used in human interactions.A few years ago, an individual purchased a bowl for at a garage sale and proudly displayed it on a mantelpiece not knowing it’s value.Later when they had it appraised they learned it was a 1,000 year-old Chinese Ding bowl from the Northern Song Dynasty.We stop believing that we have value or significance in the world. How do I begin to believe them in a way that it changes my behavior?
This will kill your heart, “the wellspring of life” – Proverbs . Look up the seven scriptures print them or write them out. Put them in your pocket, purse, in your car or in your office.
To validate someone is first to accept someone’s feelings.